My Wedding Story
20 Monday May 2013
On May 21st my husband, Jairus and I will be celebrating our 2 year wedding anniversary. It’s hard to believe it’s already been two years and WOW how things have changed, but as life goes on I will never forget the day I married my best friend and wanted to share the details of our very special day. I hope you enjoy!!
Jairus and I have been together for nine years and I can honestly say that our love grows stronger with every day that goes by. I am so thankful to have such an amazing husband that I am head over heels in love with. For us love is waking up in the mornings smiling because we are together, it’s the I miss you before you ever get out the door, the hidden notes that say have a great day I’ll be thinking of you, it’s bringing breakfast in bed just because you want to sleep in, and most importantly it’s being self-less, respectful, and always bringing out the best in one another. I am proud, honored and blessed to now call him my husband!
Jairus and I wanted to have a fairly intimate wedding that reflected our individual styles, which I might add are very different. Jairus is a free spirit that has a go with the flow attitude and a simple outlook to all life’s endeavors. I on the other hand am a perfectionist that has a plan for everything, the more details I have the better. With that being said, you can only imagine the challenges we faced during the wedding planning process, but we talked through everything and decided I would take the lead throughout the process so I took the driver seat and was ready to start planning my fairytale wedding.
I wanted to have a Romantic Victorian wedding with a contemporary edge that incorporated shades of white, dusty grey and crystal. After looking at almost every venue in the Charlotte area, our hearts pointed us to Victorian Crow’s Nest, a charming historic estate that served as a romantic backdrop for one of the most special days of our life.
On our wedding day we were surrounded by 105 of our closest friends and family. Our ceremony took place at the garden gazebo behind the estate, while our reception took place at the ballroom inside of the estate corridors.
LINENS AND CENTERPIECES
The guest sat at round tables draped in soft white linens layered with an antique ivory floral embroidered overlay with dusty grey napkins and soft white chair covers that were embellished with Enchanting tall all white floral centerpieces incorporating crystals, garden Roses, Peonies, calla lilies, Long-stem Dendrobium Orchids and Hydrangeas and Romantic crystal candelabra centerpieces, giving the ballroom a look of timeless elegance.
I chose soft white table linens layered with a dusty lavender grey overlay for the memorial table, cake table, guestbook table, and dessert buffet.
CAKE AND DESSERT BUFFET
I was very specific when it came to our wedding cake; I wanted an elegant four-tiered cake with white buttercream frosting decorated with vertical stripes and beading embellished with a beautiful Peony atop each of the four layers. The cake consisted of two flavors, Strawberry with a pureed strawberry filling and vanilla with a cream filling.
We wanted to give our guest a variety of dessert options so we decided to have, what we called, a Buffet of Chocolate Indulgence, this was a chocolate buffet made up of our favorite homemade desserts that were prepared by family and friends. Our guest enjoyed a wonderful array of chocolate flavors and textures including white chocolate, dark chocolate, chocolate fudge, chocolate oatmeal cookies, chocolate peanut butter balls, chocolate covered strawberries, chocolate and white chocolate covered peanut butter crackers, and chocolate covered pretzels. Our chocolate buffet incorporated luxurious Victorian-era décor consisting of crystal dishes, crystal candelabras, and crystal garland. We used Victorian style picture frames to display the name of each dessert along with who it was prepared by.
BOUQUETS, BOUTONNIERES AND CORSAGES
I wanted a large bouquet made of white and blush peonies wrapped with a silver ribbon adorned with a crystal broach. I wanted the bridesmaids to have an all white bouquet made of garden roses wrapped in a silver ribbon. After the ceremony the bouquets were displayed in glass vases around the cake and guestbook table.
I wanted Jairus’ boutonniere to be different from the groomsmen so we chose a calla lily for him and a rose for the groomsmen. For the mothers and grandmothers we chose small white roses with baby’s breath.
Since Jairus and I have both lost several of our loved ones we wanted to have a memorial table in their honor. The photographs were displayed in Victorian-style pewter frames and accented with crystal candle holders, a 3-tiered crystal lamp, and crystal picks.
FAVORS AND WELCOME GIFTS
In our mind it was the small details that made our wedding so special. From our handmade program fans to our wedding monogram and personalized playing cards. Our favors and were a deck of playing cards with a personalized label that we created together. Our personalized label was a black and white engagement photo atop our wedding monogram. Since Jairus and I created the wedding monogram together we wanted to incorporate it as much as possible throughout our wedding. In addition to our favors, we used the personalized label for our ceremony programs. Since our ceremony was outdoors in the middle of May we chose ceremony program fans as our welcome gifts. We hand-painted the fan sticks a dusty grey and had the programs printed on light grey paper with our personalized label on the front of each program.
We selected a grayish silver pocket fold invitation with a small white bow that I made on the front of the invitation. I hand wrote the addresses in a silver/grey pen and sealed the envelope with hand-made stickers of our wedding monogram. We also used our wedding monogram stickers to seal our thank you notes.
WEDDING PARTY ATTIRE
I chose a mermaid sweetheart style fully laced wedding gown by Casablanca Bridal, large pave’ teardrop crystal chandelier earrings and a crystal scroll bangle by Nadri, and ivory satin open-toed platform sling-backs with pleated ruffle details by RSVP (they were the cheaper version of Badgley Mishka’s Randee). Instead of a traditional veil I wore a feather and Swarovski crystal hair clip.
All five of the bridesmaids wore a sweetheart style silvercee Mori Lee gown adorned with a crystal broach, linear crystal teardrop earrings and a hanging crystal bracelet made of medium sized clear round crystals, and black open-toe sandals. The flower girl wore an all-white ball gown style dress with round crystal studs and white open-toe sandals. The ring bearer wore an all-black three button tuxedo with a black vest and a silver tie.
Jairus, the groom, and all five of the groomsmen wore a traditional black three button tuxedo with a platinum grey multi-diamond pattern vest and a coordinating striped tie from Men’s Warehouse.
Our guests were served a variety of fruit, cheese and dips during the cocktail hour. We had a buffet style dinner that included chicken marsala, a beef tenderloin carving station, broccoli and cheese casserole, country style green beans, pasta salad, a mashed potato bar, and an assortment of breads. Our guests were served a garden salad with either balsamic vinaigrette or ranch dressing before the buffet style entrée was served.
We chose a non-traditional guestbook where each guest was given their very own guestbook page to complete. We chose this because it was more interactive and allowed our guests to tell stories of how they know us, share their favorite memories of us, give us advice, and send us wishes on our special day. The guestbook pages were handed out during the cocktail hour so the guest could fill them out at their leisure. We had a table setup beside the cake table for the guest to return their completed page at the end of the night.